I’ve written extensively about my own affair and did so for a similar reason to your research: I found pretty much nothing out there when I was specifically looking for helpful things to read.

Here’s one piece of mine, which links to others. Happy to answer any questions. I do think there needs to be more conversation about these things.

https://link.medium.com/uPxr3xkm1cb

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