I think it’s possible for several things simultaneously to be true: that you and your ex husband are not right for each other and that you love your friend, but also that they have both treated you poorly at different times.

I think your grace and willingness to see the best in both of these people is admirable and speaks to your own goodness and generosity, but please don’t let yourself believe that this is something you “deserved” in some way or that you have to be ok with it. Intellectually, yes there’s justification, but on an emotional level, there’s a shabbiness here that goes back a long way and I hope you see enough of that to maintain strong boundaries.

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